 When situations appear to knock us for six, including ones that may seem quite trivial to others, they can be reminders of how personally we’re taking things, especially when the fear triggers such a painful, visceral response in the body.
My old, lovely friend of a car xx needs to be scrapped now after failing its MOT (v badly) and this has brought up so many fears around money, survival as a single mum for me and my son over many years, being able to work, to travel, independence in a bad marriage, freedom & autonomy, letting go… so much! …and the intense pain that has been in my body since hearing it has almost stopped me in my tracks. It does seem excessive when, on the surface, it’s about a car … but really it’s about so much more... It’s so true that ‘the body keeps the score’! The energetics of triggers, traumas and the deep-down cellular fears that are restimulated… sometimes in surprising ways. And situations can be so relative… to some this might be nothing more than an inconvenience, but to others it can have a huge impact practically, bodily and emotionally. Have you experienced situations like this? I’m so grateful for being able to remember my own practices, to self comfort, to release somatically through the body with EFT and quanta healing and to feel open and at peace again …and so to work everything out calmly There was a time when I couldn't do this and the suffering was so much more. Mostly, I am thankful, despite the pain, that this happens as it shows me areas that still need to be healed and released … and I know through experience that automatic reactions and fears are then transformed and they lose their tight grip. They are significantly less painful the next time, too! I am also grateful for remembering and knowing that these old pains resurfacing in our bodies are not who we truly are, and as they are seen and ‘held’ they are ‘combed out’ and disperse as the illusions they ultimately are. Mention: 'The Body Keeps the Score' by Bessel van der Kolk #triggers #somatic #healing #hsp #fears
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A wonderful new book by my friend Bingz Huang..!  You can also find out more about Bingz and all she offers by visiting her website Bingz Healing Light My review on Amazon where you can buy the book in paperback or on Kindle.  On gentleness and thinking of Bingz’s new book Empower your life with Gentleness. Bingz writes, ‘To me, just thinking of the word “Gentleness” helps me to soften my default armor.’ This reminds me of a meditation I do where I intentionally soften my face, my eyes, any part of my body ... there’s something in the word/ association that instantly calms, like a warmth, an inner smile, washing, cleansing in light. Gentleness. Softness … the feelings and senses themselves cannot seem to coexist with the harshness/discord that can be inside us sometimes - and so when we intentionally welcome gentleness we see/feel it is much stronger! :) ... as a soft blanket that envelops the jangling … and gently dissolves it 🌸 And I love this simple technique that Bingz describes - so beautiful to remember if we can, in the moment or even for at the start of each day... ‘Activating your Gentleness Instinct. Here is a simple two-step technique to activate your body’s Gentleness Instinct: Step 1) set the intention to allow your instinct to be gentle on yourself. Step 2) feel how you feel in your body after you have done Step 1.‘  This small pastel painting is on the wall next to my desk - a reminder of gentleness and softness for me. |